Six Signs You’re Too Independent
Being independent is a great thing to be. But you want to be independent, without being too independent. That’s right, it’s a thing, and it can do more harm than good for you if you are.
Wow! This is so me! When I saw that YourTango was investigating this question, I was interested. I have always classified people into two categories. Dogs and cats. No, not in the sense that of their pets or what they like…but personality. Cats are independent and come to you when they need love. Dogs are always working for affection and need to be around others 24-7.
I am a little bit of both, but I 100% lean more cat. Especially in the independence department, but thats not always a good thing!
“Hyper-independent” tendencies can see themselves in different places in your life, from your romantic life to your professional life. They can slowly become more toxic.
Trauma coach Aspen Robinson took to TikTok acknowledging that there are benefits to having independence, but that there are some signs you should look out for that you’re “too independent.” Here are six that she says are the key signs.
- You are the “ruler in your family” who takes on all the responsibilities
- You’d rather be alone than bring someone new into your life and constantly fear them leaving
- You grew up as a “caregiver” either to your siblings or parents
- You seek control over your life to protect yourself from being “let down” by others
- You “pushed forward” by suppressing your feelings
- You grew up in a household with no emotional, physical or mental support