Woman Asks If She’s Wrong For Refusing To Pay Money Towards Boyfriend’s Mortgage
One woman took to Reddit‘s “r/AmItheA**hole” (AITA) thread explaining that she, a 29-year-old woman, and her BF, a 33-year-old man, have been together for three years. They’re ready to take the next step in the relationship, with her moving into the home he owns and has been paying the mortgage on for seven years. She has one issue with the situation – she doesn’t want to help out financially.
“I am refusing to pay any money that would go directly towards his mortgage. I don’t have any stake in the house, why would I contribute to his mortgage payments?” she wrote. “I’m ok helping with utilities, groceries, household items, etc. But paying his mortgage is a hard no from me.” His argument? That she’d be “essentially be living with him for free and it would cause an uneven dynamic in our payment towards shared living expenses.”
She suggested a contract they both sign that in the event they break up, he’d give her back all the money she paid towards his mortgage. He did not go for that idea.
Most Redditors rated her YTA (You’re the A**hole), siding with the BF. One person wrote, “You clearly don’t have any problem paying your landlord’s mortgage and you have no stake in that. How is this any different? You live there, you can help pay for the expenses. YTA.” Another wrote, “YTA. You would rather pay more, than anything to him. Break up with him so he can find someone smarter.”
Source: Reddit
