You probably once said you wished you could ‘spend every minute with your boo.’ Well, now that the coronavirus has granted your wish… do you take it back? Here’s some advice if you’re worried a case of cabin fever might end your relationship.
A recent study from the University of Missouri-Kansas City found it’s important for people to maintain a “sense of self” inside relationships. Basically, you really need to try and maintain a balance between togetherness and separateness. Yes, you’re scientifically approved to do your own thing every once in a while…even during this crisis.
Carving out your own time and space to do things alone is just as important as the time you’re spending with your boo. You’re already feeling forced to stay inside so feeling forced to do everything they want to do is only make your freedom feel even more limited. So if you’re both working from home now, set up your laptops in different rooms, or if you only have one room, tell your partner you’re it’s alone time, and go to read in the corner.
Think of it like the quarantine version of that phrase “you can’t love someone until you love yourself.” You can’t maintain your fulfillment as a couple if you aren’t maintaining your fulfillment as an individual too.
Source: Psychology Today