Finding out your in-laws have done something with your child without your permission can be concerning, but what if you find out they’ve been doing it for years? This is the spot one mom finds herself in after discovering her husband’s parents have been taking their eight-year-old son to church with them for a couple years now, all behind mom and dad’s back. So how did they keep this a secret? The boy has been staying at his grandparents without his parents for the last few summers and no one ever brought it up.
The dismayed mom only found out after her son asked if she would come watch him get baptized at his Grammy’s and she was shocked, to say the least. The thing is, the grandparents know how the parents feel about church. Mom writes that she’s a lapsed Anglican and her husband is a lapsed Mormon and they made it clear to both sets of grandparents that they wanted their son to make his own decision about his faith when he was older and ready. So her in-laws did the whole church thing behind their backs, never asking how either parent would feel about it first.
Now the mom is angry, but she also feels bad for her son because he loves staying with his grandma and grandpa, but she says that can’t happen now that they’ve crossed a line. In a post to Reddit’s “Just no MIL” section, she asks how she should proceed because she can’t trust her in-laws now. Many users were outraged by the grandparents, pointing out that if they felt the need to hide their actions, they knew it was wrong. Lots of Redditors say him going to church isn’t the problem, but the baptism is a big deal and so is the fact they’ve lied about it for so long and had the kid hide it, too.