Love in 2024: Anticipating the Next Wave of Dating Trends
As we approach 2024, Bumble, the dating app, has provided insights into the upcoming dating trends. Drawing from the experiences of over 25,000 singles globally, the app has identified trends that will shape dating and relationships in the coming year.
Looking forward, 2024 is poised to be the “year of self” in dating and relationships. A growing number of people are turning inward to assess their values and desires. This shift involves rejecting the pursuit of perfection, abandoning outdated timelines, and placing greater emphasis on emotional vulnerability, self-acceptance, and shared priorities.
As we enter 2024, there is a sense of optimism and clarity for the “year of self.” Bumble’s research indicates that over half (57 percent) of surveyed women have a clear vision of what they want in their romantic lives for the new year.
Cross-Gen Dating Trend
Bumble suggests that singles are increasingly open to age diversity in dating. Age is no longer a significant factor for 63 percent of people, and 59 percent of women express a newfound openness to dating someone younger, according to Bumble’s September research, which included over 26,800 Bumble members worldwide.
Over a third of women (35 percent) have become less judgmental toward age-gap relationships in the past year.
Val-core Dating Trend
In today’s dating landscape, shared priorities and values are important. And it’s not just caring about a cause but going beyond. Termed Val-Core, this trend signifies the growing importance of people engaging with issues that matter to them.
One-quarter (25%) of people on Bumble say it’s important that their partner actively participates in politics and social causes, making them more attractive. Bumble’s research on dating preferences reveals that women are less open to people with differing political views, with one in three (33 percent) considering it a turn-off if their date is unaware of current societal issues.
Bumble highlights that in 2023, movies, music, fashion, and pop culture spurred significant discussions about masculinity and gender roles. A quarter (25 percent) of surveyed men indicate that they have actively adjusted their behavior in romantic connections, choosing to be more open and vulnerable with those they date. This newfound openness has positively impacted the mental health of a quarter of men surveyed (25 percent), and for 32 percent, being open and vulnerable is deemed the most important aspect of a relationship.
Goodbye to Settling Down
Despite evolving attitudes towards traditional timelines for settling down, there remains a persistent pressure to achieve conventional relationship milestones, such as marriage. Bumble suggests a shift in this for 2024. A third of women surveyed (31 percent) are no longer fixated on conforming to these milestones in their relationships. Only 23 percent of women surveyed on Bumble are specifically seeking marriage, while 72 percent are in search of a long-term relationship. For almost a third of women respondents (31 percent), this entails exclusively dating people with similar perspectives. Additionally, 16 percent actively avoid friends and family who exert pressure on them to attain certain relationship milestones.
Take a look at the full report here.
Avoid These First Date Fails: 14 Worst Places to Go
Strip Club
A strip club as a first date location is perhaps the epitome of a worst-case scenario. The combination of loud music, dim lighting, and provocative performances make it impossible to have a real heart-to-heart. Instead of getting to know each other, the focus shifts entirely to the dancers on stage, leaving little room for real interaction. Although, someone on Reddit admitted to having a first date at a strip club. They even turned it into something positive. “The trick is to never take your eyes off your date to prove your loyalty,” they wrote.
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Funeral
It’s a super sad and serious occasion where people are mourning and trying to cope with loss. Also, not the time to try and spark a romantic connection. It would be so awkward and totally disrespectful to everyone there. First dates are supposed to be fun and light-hearted, not filled with grief and sorrow. On a Reddit thread, a woman recounted an awkward experience she had while attending a funeral with a date. Expressing her discomfort, she wrote, “God rest your soul Grandpa Jack but if I’m ever introduced somewhere as a ‘special friend’ ever again I’m gonna unalive myself.” YIKES!
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Cemetery
The eerie silence, tombstones, and the constant reminder of mortality create an atmosphere that’s anything but romantic. Instead of charming conversation and shared laughter, you’re left feeling uncomfortable and awkward, tiptoeing around gravestones. It’s not the kind of setting that fosters a genuine connection. Plus, nobody wants their first date to feel like a horror movie. You won’t believe this, but I have a former coworker who actually takes her dogs for walks in a cemetery. She claims it’s to steer clear of people and other dogs. Anyway, she thought it would be a great idea to bring a guy she met on a dating app along for one of these walks. Let’s just say that was their first and last date.
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Sex Shop
Suggesting a sex shop as a first date destination is a cringe-worthy nightmare. It’s like entering the ultimate awkward zone. From the moment you step inside, you’re surrounded by a plethora of adult toys and intimate products, and there’s no way to avoid feeling uncomfortable. Instead of getting to know each other, you’d be blushing and trying to dodge eye contact at every turn. Not exactly the recipe for a successful first date. Apparently, it happens. Someone on Reddit shared the details of their first date at a sex shop, writing ” Xxx adult book store/theater/novelty shop. he said to just keep an open mind.”
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Little League Game
A little league game as a first date, especially when you have no relation or ties to the kids playing, can be quite a cringe-inducing situation. While supporting children’s sports is admirable, this setting may not be the best for getting to know each other. Why not splurge a little and go for a major league game or a minor league event instead? It could be way more fun and exciting. There was a Redditor who shared their rather unexpected experience of going on a first date to a little league game.”I was pretty excited for a baseball game date until we pulled up to a local field where kids were playing…and no he didn’t have kids.”
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Movies
Sure, it sounds classic, but think about it. You’re sitting in the dark, not talking, and trying to get to know each other while silently munching on popcorn. There’s zero chance for meaningful conversation or bonding. Plus, you can’t gauge each other’s reactions to the movie, which could be a bit awkward if one of you hates it and the other loves it. From my own experience, just know that it’s a challenge trying to get to know someone while a movie is blaring sonic booms and people around you are constantly munching their popcorn and obnoxiously slurping their drinks.
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Abandoned Construction Site
An abandoned construction site as a first date is a recipe for disaster. It’s not only dangerous but also incredibly creepy and uncomfortable. The dusty surroundings, broken structures, and potential hazards make it far from an ideal setting to get to know someone. Realistically, no one in their right mind would suggest such a location for a first date, or would they? This one actually appeared on a list reported by Thrillist. According to the list of voters, more than 200 people went on a date on an abandoned construction site. It’s just not a place to foster a connection or create lasting memories. Let’s leave the abandoned construction sites for action movies and opt for a much safer.
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Geocaching
While geocaching can be an exciting and adventurous activity for some, it might not be the best choice for a first date. Geocaching involves using GPS coordinates to find hidden containers or “caches” outdoors, which can take you to unfamiliar locations and sometimes rugged terrains. Your date might get the wrong idea, like you’re taking them to a creepy dungeon with victims. Also, for some people, this type of activity can be intimidating, especially if they are not comfortable with outdoor adventures or physical challenges. Someone on Reddit shared how creepy this first date activity can be. “In* a secluded area, where you might get kidnapped and maybe murdered or sold off to I wonder where,” they wrote.
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Camping
Camping as a first date might not be the best idea. It can be a real challenge, especially if you’re both new to it. Setting up tents, dealing with bugs, and getting used to outdoor living can be stressful and take away from the opportunity to connect. Plus, if the weather doesn’t cooperate, it could turn into a total disaster. Camping requires a lot of cooperation and problem-solving, which might be too much for a first date. Some people shared their thoughts about this in a Reddit thread with one person writing, “No. Just no. If she doesn’t know you that well it could be super sketchy.” While camping might not be everyone’s ideal first date, some people have found success, especially if they are enthusiastic about camping.
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Nightclub
Hitting up a nightclub for a first date might not be the best idea. It’s just too loud and crazy to have a decent chat and get to know each other. You’ll end up yelling to hear anything, and that’s not exactly a recipe for a romantic time. Plus, with all the drinking and partying going on, things could get a little messy. This happened more times than I would like to admit in my lifetime. And every time I thought my opinion would change one it. A place that’s loud with drinking and strobe lights is recipe for disaster. Especially when your date doesn’t know their alcohol limits. Oh, and you can’t forget not being able to hold a conversation under the “bump” and “thump” of the music.
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Your Place
It could get a little too close for comfort, you know? Plus, it might be a bit awkward and make you feel like you’re invading each other’s personal space. Unless you both love being cooped up and binge-watching Netflix together, Safety-wise, it’s better to meet up in a public spot where you both feel at ease. Keep the home hangouts for when you’re more familiar with each other.
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Group Date With Friends
While it may sound fun and casual, a group date as your first date could present some challenges. With a crowd of friends or acquaintances around, the spotlight might be shared, making it difficult to have personal and meaningful conversations with your date. Instead of getting to know each other intimately, you might find yourself engaged in small talk or trying to keep up with the group dynamic. The potential for distractions and divided attention could leave you feeling disconnected and longing for a more intimate experience.
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Gym
A first date at the gym can lead to some unexpected challenges and potentially ruin the date’s mood. Feeling out of place and self-conscious can overshadow the opportunity to connect. Plus, sweating it out together might not be the most flattering scenario for a first impression. “I wouldn’t even be able to say a full sentence without being out of breath from doing 5 squats,” a Redditor shared on the subject.
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Fast-Food Restaurant
A tempting choice for a quick and affordable meal, but perhaps not the best spot for a first date. Sure, it’s convenient, but let’s face it, the ambiance is far from romantic or intimate. You’re met with fluorescent lights, plastic seats, customer chatter, and register beeps. Not to mention the limited menu options, which might not cater to everyone’s tastes or dietary preferences. Nothing kills the mood faster than feeling disappointed or unsatisfied with your meal choice. Whether it’s disappointment from your date or your stomach.
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