5 Biggest Regrets Divorced People Have Over Their Marriage
Here are the 5 biggest regrets divorced people have over their marriage according to Your Tango. For some, the best ways to learn are from your mistakes and from the…
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gorodenkoff/Getty ImagesHere are the 5 biggest regrets divorced people have over their marriage according to Your Tango. For some, the best ways to learn are from your mistakes and from the mistakes of others. University of Michigan psychologist Dr. Terri Orbuch looked at 373 couples during their first year of marriage, of which 46% later got divorced. She found that most divorcees had the same five regrets when it came to their marriage, and she’s sharing them with all of us to learn. Here are the 5 biggest regrets divorced people have over their marriage:
- Not showing your partner you love and care for them before the marriage heads to divorce. Seemingly small gestures like saying “I love you” or complimenting your partner go a long way.
- Not talking about money. In most marriages, money is the number one source of conflict. It should be something that’s transparent in a relationship.
- Not letting go of the past. Orbuch says that "This includes getting over jealousy of your partner's past relationships, irritation at how your mother-in-law treats you, something from your childhood that makes it hard for you to trust, a spat you had with your spouse six months ago."
- Blaming the other person. Ask your partner for their perspective of the problem or conflict you’re discussing. There’s always more than one way of seeing things.
- Not communicating effectively. A lack of communication is one of the biggest factors in getting a divorce. Forty-one percent of those Dr. Orbuch looked into said that communication was the number one factor they’d change in a future relationship.
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