Lots of couples struggle with how to keep their sex lives going strong, but when you have kids? That can be even more challenging. There are all kinds of things that make it tough for parents, from being exhausted to not having any personal space. But according to Cafe Mom, even when alone time feels impossible, these tips from marriage and life coach Shellie R. Warren can help keep your sex life alive.
Keep the bedroom sacred – Your bedroom is the only room in your home that’s just for you and your partner, so treating it like it’s sacred will make it easier to have it be a spot for rest and intimacy.
Get a new mattress topper and some WD-40 – To keep the kids from hearing you during sexy time, try moving the bed away from the wall so it doesn’t bang when you do, use the WD-40 to quiet the creaking if you have a metal bed frame and try a new mattress topper to reduce some of the impact that causes the bed to squeak.
Schedule intimacy time – Warren feels strongly that sex should be treated as a priority because it helps connect in a way that nothing else can. So to make sure you make it happen, schedule time weekly – either before the kids wake up or after they go to bed – to have sex.
Have more quickies – They’re underrated and can be the perfect way to enjoy a little pleasure and decrease stress when you don’t have time or energy for epic “movie sex.”
Invest in a babysitter – Schedule a standing appointment with your sitter so you can have regular date nights or afternoons or whatever works best with your schedule. You can also do a ‘babysitter swap” with your friends who have kids so you can trade off watching each other’s kiddos and you both get time off without having to pay anyone.
Turn some of those dates into sex dates – When you have that sitter, get a hotel room for the night or when the kids are at the grandparents’, make the most of that empty house and have a sex date.
Don’t be afraid to lock the door – You probably don’t want to keep the bedroom door locked when your kids are toddlers, but once they’re old enough for elementary school, it’s fine to lock your door for long enough to get frisky. That way you don’t have to worry about anyone walking in and catching you in the act.
Source: Cafe Mom