This story blew my mind! A 32-year-old Redditor says she happily signed the prenuptial agreement her husband wanted when they tied the knot six years ago, but now he wants to void it and she’s not on board. Why? She’s making a LOT more money. In a post to Reddit’s “Am I the a-hole” section, she explains that he wanted the prenup to protect property he owned and she had debt from grad school, so it didn’t bother her.
The couple never shared finances, except for a shared household expenses account, and they don’t talk about their salaries with each other. All she knows is that her husband, a software engineer, was earning around $90-thousand when they got together.
She’s now a Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist pulling in $175 an hour and working up to 48 hours a week, so she’s making around $435-thousand a year. But none of this mattered until she bought herself a nice new car (finally giving up the clunker she’d had since grad school) and that got her husband thinking.
He questioned what her payments were for the Audi and she told him she paid cash and had no payments. Hours after telling her husband she makes more than enough to afford it, he came back and told her they should void the prenup.
She responded by laughing in his face, which didn’t go over too well. She explained to him that they’ve never shared finances and she was fine to keep doing that, adding that “his sudden change of heart was very suspicious.” He then called her a bunch of names before storming out. Now she’s wondering if she handled it wrong and has turned to Reddit for advice and most users have her back:
“Not gonna lie, you two don’t sound like partners,” one Redditor writes. “Take this change of heart as the red flag that it is and consider how you want to proceed.”
In an update, the woman shares that she’s going to “take a leave of absence from my work to sort out my life … I guess I was too caught up in school, work, and debt to really see that my marriage was a sham.”