Ok couples, here’s some words of wisdom from Maney!
Even when you’re having an incredible time in bed, sometimes things can take a turn and you’re suddenly feeling embarrassed or uncomfortable. It’s happened to the best of us. Handling those awkward moments can be tricky, but there’s an expert who knows just what to do – an intimacy coordinator.
According to Well and Good, they work with actors to create a safe and comfortable environment on set for scenes with nudity or sex. And it turns out, their pro tips can apply to real-life sex situations as well.
Intimacy coordinator Dr. Rebecca Johanssen shares her advice for coping with awkwardness during sex:
- Use humor – Sex doesn’t have to be serious all the time and cracking a joke can lighten the mood in bed. Dr. Johanssen tells Well and Good; being physically out of sync with each other is one of the things that can lead to awkwardness. If you can laugh at it, it can help you embrace the fact that sex is allowed to be funny and enjoy it more easily.
- Offer up some praise – An honest compliment can go a long way toward reducing awkwardness, especially if your partner isn’t that confident in their body or skills. Remind them there’s no wrong way to do it and tell them what’s working and what you enjoy to help them relax.
- Pause for a check-in – Being in the heat of the moment may not seem like an ideal time to break for conversation, but Dr. Johanssen says talking it out can be a good way to reset and restart from a more comfortable place. You can ask how your partner is feeling or get right to the point and ask what really turns them on or how they want to be touched right then.
- Read body language cues and ask questions – Feeling awkward during sex may keep someone from saying what they really mean or feel, so using non-verbal cues can give insight. So if they say they’re fine, but won’t make eye contact, or their body language feels closed off, this sexpert advises not jumping to conclusions and asking instead. Rather than saying, “Wow, you must not be into me because you’re not making eye contact,” try something less judgemental, like, “I noticed you’re not making eye contact. I was wondering, why do you think that is?” Then let your partner fill in the blanks so you can get on the same “sexual wavelength.”
Source: Well and Good