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The MRL Morning Show

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If you’ve ever dated a self-sufficient person, you know that even though they can take care of themselves, that they need love too. As an extremely independent woman I can tell you this is true.

It’s just a different kind of love. For the uninitiated that just matched with an independent person, here are some of the best ways to show your self-reliant boo that you care.

Let them have time and space to themselves. Your independent lover is going to need more time alone than you may be used to with exes. They have their own hobbies and interests and sometimes just need a bunch of me-time. Don’t take it as a slight against you that they don’t want you involved. Use that time to find your own thing because every relationship benefits from both partners having their own things.

Know they may have trouble asking for help. Not all self-sufficient people are too proud to ask for help, but a lot are. You may have to try and give them a hand before they even ask for it. But it’s going to have to be something you feel out over time because if you step in too soon to fix their problems, you might come across as rude.

Be their biggest cheerleader. They may not involve you in all of their ambitious goals but that doesn’t mean you can’t be there for them as they try to make them happen. Independent people don’t want to be with a naysayer that makes them second guess themselves. They want to be with someone that will root for them and a person that will motivate them when they aren’t feeling particularly motivated.