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As we previously reported, Tamar Braxton’s fiance David Adefeso recently filed a restraining order against the artist on Tuesday (Sept. 8) in Los Angeles, asking for protection against the 43-year-old singer and reality TV star, as TMZ reported. However, it’s unclear what exactly Braxton might have done. Adefeso’s request has yet to be approved by the court. Braxton claimed that Adefeso was the aggressor in their altercation, stating that he threatened to kill her in a murder-suicide plot, as The Blast reported.

According to The Blast, sources close to the “Love and War” singer said that an altercation transpired between the formerly engaged pair while they were driving to check the singer and reality TV star into her mental health facility for treatment. While on the way to the clinic, Braxton allegedly asked David about a recent video that he shared on Instagram of himself, his mother, and Braxton’s 7-year-old son Logan Herbert, that she shares with her ex-husband Vincent Herbert.

WEST HOLLYWOOD, CALIFORNIA – APRIL 02: (L-R) David Adefeso and Tamar Braxton are seen as We TV celebrates the premiere of “Braxton Family Values” at Doheny Room on April 02, 2019 in West Hollywood, California. (Photo by Earl Gibson III/Getty Images for WE tv )

Braxton insinuated that Adefeso might be “around for the wrong reasons and could not be trusted,” and then things escalated. The source claims that Adefeso became “irate, threatening not only her life but his own.”  The financial advisor allegedly mentioned a murder-suicide plot before the argument turned violent.

Adefeso allegedly grabbed Tamar’s arm causing bruising. Braxton claimed that she grabbed his arm in retaliation to him grabbing hers. “Any claims that Ms. Braxton was the aggressor and/or abusive are completely false and have no merit. David Adefeso has been upset and abusive since seeing his own true colors on Tamar’s upcoming television show and has been taking it out on Tamar ever since,” the source said.

On Wednesday (Sept. 9), Adefeso got on Instagram Live to share his side of the story. “Here’s the truth, I’ve been a victim of domestic violence, domestic assault. I was attacked. I was driving at high speed and I was attacked, a blow to my neck, my jugular. For those of you who know medicine, the jugular is what carries blood to your brain. When you’re hit there, it discombobulates you,” he said.

LOS ANGELES, CA – MAY 22: Singer Tamar Braxton attends the PrettyLittleThing x Karl Kani event at Nightingale Plaza on May 22, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by David Livingston/Getty Images)

“I was driving fast, I had to call my mom. A 50-year-old guy having to call his mom when he’s driving. And my mom started praying, Tamar was in the car. My mom started praying. Only to find out after the blow, I was being secretly recorded. Something that is illegal and unfair. And the tape’s being sent to my family. The tapes of me in distress and pain, calling my mom are being sent to my family and other people.”

Adefeso then paused to collect himself. “My car was destroyed. I drive a Rolls Royce, many of you know. Almost $30,000 in damage. And I can’t really continue to speak about this because the cops are involved. It’s a criminal case now, the damage to the car, the taping, the assault. I can tell you this, I will never, ever, ever and never will put my hand on a woman. I grew up in a household, my parents were together for 50 years. They were married. I lived in the home for 21 years but I observed them for over 40 years. My mom and dad were the most loving and kind couple to each other. I never saw my dad hit my mom. I never heard my mom hit my dad or see it…I never witnessed domestic assault growing up. Not from a friend, not from a cousin. I didn’t grow up in that type of environment,” he continued.

LAS VEGAS, NV – NOVEMBER 06: TV personality Tamar Braxton attends the 2016 Soul Train Music Awards at the Orleans Arena on November 6, 2016 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Ethan Miller/Getty Images)

“I grew up with two covenants that I made to myself. And two covenants that I made to my God, I would never hit a woman and I would never cheat on the woman that I was dating or married to. I have never broken them. God gave us women to be our partners to be our strength. You hit a woman, you deserve to go to jail for a long time. Women are not as strong as us physically. You do not touch women. Not in my home, not ever.”

“I never ever laid a hand on Tamar Braxton or any woman in my entire life. What you’ve been told is false. There’s a criminal investigation going on. I am the victim. The truth will come to light. I’m really hoping there are no issues of perjury on the other side. It really is important,” Adefeso said. “You can say whatever you want on social media. Don’t tell the cops something that’s true. And I told the cops exactly what happened. I was the victim, never laid a hand on her and never, ever, ever, ever will lay a hand on a woman.”

Glennisha Morgan is a Detroit-bred multimedia journalist and writer. She writes about intersectionality, hip-hop, pop culture, queer issues, race, feminism, and her truth. Follow her on Twitter @GlennishaMorgan.