The Most Common Dating Mistakes Basically Everyone Makes
The dating game is played by many and only mastered by few. There’s no set rules and everyone’s just kind of winging it, so in the process, we’re usually making…
NEW YORK – MAY 28: Single New Yorkers chat during a HurryDate speed dating event May 28, 2003 in New York City. Speed dating is a trend in New York, pitting dozens of singles together for dozens of short “dates” in an evening. Participants fill out cards if they’re interested, and event organizers e-mail any resulting matches. (Photo by Chris Hondros/Getty Images)
Photo by Chris Hondros/Getty ImagesThe dating game is played by many and only mastered by few. There’s no set rules and everyone’s just kind of winging it, so in the process, we’re usually making a lot of mistakes. Lucky for you though, I’ve got a list from dating experts of all the things you can avoid and set yourself above the rest of the single crowd.
- Bating without any goals in mind. Relationship coach Kari Tumminia says one of the biggest mistakes singles make is dating without intentions. Instead of actively looking for what they really want, Tumminia says a lot of folks are just out there “auditioning for the position of a soulmate" and going out with whoever gives them sexy eyes. Sit down and think about whom exactly you want to be with and skip sampling humans.
- Focusing on dating only one person at a time. Tumminia believes people often forget that "dating and being in a relationship aren't the same thing." If you can focus on a different TV show every night, you can focus on a different date every night too. Actively dating means "meeting, experiencing, and ultimately vetting new people in pursuit of a relationship," says Tumminia. Life is short, and your free time is limited, so start dating more people at one time.
- You think you can change someone. You’ve probably been told that “you can’t change people” but you still think you’re the exception to that rule. Professional matchmaker April Davis would beg to differ. “It is important to take them as they are and assume all their good and bad characteristics and traits are there to stay,” says Davis. “The next choice that should be made is if those bad traits are something you can realistically deal with or if it's a dealbreaker." Not if you can fix them… because you can’t.
Avoiding these alone isn’t going to make you an expert level dater so check out the full list of common mistakes HERE.
